Now what? I have all the independence a person could want, but I don’t know what I want to do with it. Work is rewarding, but there’s something missing, something more core, something more… I don’t know, human? Making software solves problems [and makes problems], and I like solving problems.
But what would I do if I was born 50 years ago? Making things. Solving problems. Having real utility to a society.
I’m working on widening my definition of what a quality friend is. I feel like I’ve felt lost before. Was if in SF? It might have been. But a place does not give one a direction. What gives direction then? People/relationships? Movement? A destination in mind?
Maybe I substituted movement for direction. Maybe frequent job change, moving around the country, maybe that was a reasonable substitute for a time.
Fencing. When I was fencing I had a singular purpose – improve the quantity and quality of fencing. Direction. But that path was narrow. Slip just a little, twist an ankle, and it could have all fell apart.
Maybe it’s not just about having direction, or a path, but making that path wide enough that you can actually stay on it though the support of others.
Now that Buzz is out, and WordPress has some decent exporting tools and I found a good converter, I’m moving my blogging to http://tildewill.blogspot.com/ I’ll be importing old posts over the next few days. I’ll also be setting up a second blog through Blogger that have the more un-public material. But this is the last post you’ll see at this location unless something goes horribly wrong. So go to the new place already!
After last Tea Time things came together in a new way for me. Hearing Ev speak and putting together some of the smaller things that Twitter does, it really strives to be a personalized news network. This means Twitter is a lot more like me turning on the TV to watch the local news and the reporters telling me only the news that is interesting to me – “News of the future” in a way. I see this expressed in the terminology like “Follow” vs. “Friend”.
Prior to Friday, I did see Twitter as another social network. But if you treat it like a news company, Facebook is not the main competitor. I also don’t think that you could say traditional news networks are “competition” because at 140 characters, Twitter is content-poor and relies on 3rd party sites to provide content. In that case, their growing integration with CNN makes more and more sense.
Conclusion: Facebook is for friends, but get your news on at http://twitter.com
Why do people take their work home with them? I get it that you’re showing “ambition” and that “more” is getting done. But aren’t you really just burning yourself out? I like working at Pivotal Labs because the people there don’t take their work home, they take their skills home. My coworkers lead rich, fulfilling lives outside the 9-6 day. You can tell this is true when you meet their wives, or their children. These people have awesome family relationships. They also do a lot of other fun things, biking, hiking, improv comedy, side projects that people outside the company can use, dancing, political activism, and on and on.
Conversely, the people I’ve worked with in the past who do take their work home come in and talk about the reality TV show they caught last night. They don’t bring their wives out to social events, and you get the impression things are a little rocky. Before too long, those people start looking drained of life. This may work if you’re a solo act at work, but what if you’re a part of a team? Every day you have to sync up with the rest of the team. Stuff gets done that the rest of the team had no say in doing.
Despite the list of consequences I could make here, it really just comes down to “Why?”. Why would you pick work over anything else – personal health, relationships, fun? There’s a saying that no one on his death bed ever said, “If only I had worked more…”. People wish they had spent more time with family and friends and living life. I just don’t get it.
As a part of my class in life coaching at San Francisco State University, I was encouraged to focus on one of my strengths, and do something new with it. The strength I always keep handy is humor and playfulness. I use it readily to meet new people, to diffuse tense situations, and to get a warm feeling inside by making others smile. Starting Monday, I’ll be starting down a path to become an improv comedian.
Classes are being held by the San Francisco Comedy College. The improv troupe is called “Frisco” poking fun at all the people who say “Don’t call it ‘Frisco’”. Yeah they’re talking about you. Monday nights for 5 weeks. I think this is right up my alley for tons of reasons, but some of the key points are:
- Gets me on stage. I like being a point of attention
- I won’t be the only one on stage, I don’t like being the center of attention
- Conversational humor! I never thought I’d be good at stand up and essentially talking alone, I always wanted a routine where I had someone to talk to and play off of. This is exactly that.
- Nothing like having an audience and being a pseudo-celebrity to get you meeting new people.
So ‘Frisco it is. http://www.sfcomedycollege.com/ Mark your calendars for Monday March 8th at 6:30pm where I’ll be performing!
Just canceled my membership to Mission Cliffs. Lara has been going to school and it’s been hard for us to hit the gym. I have met other people who climb, but they go way the hell out to Planet Granite. So I’m redirecting the funds and will begin taking classes and making stuff at Tech Shop in the near future: http://techshop.ws/index.html. For bonus points, they’re opening a new Tech Shop just 3 blocks from Pivotal Labs this summer. Yahtzee!
When I was 19, I thought I knew nothing about relationships, and I dated a lot.
Now that I’m 28, I think I know a lot about relationships, and yet dating seems much, much harder.